4.21.2008

What is it like to WAIT???

Adoptive families have a whole host of lingo…paper-chasing, paper-pregnant, dossier-to, forever family, gotcha day, Yahoo Group stalker …and on & on.

Once a family’s paperwork is complete and submitted to the country they’re adopting from, the family is considered to be ‘paper pregnant.’ But as I was praying this morning for the families who are moments away from receiving their referral, I think ‘paper pregnant’ is a misnomer. 'Paper-conceiving' may be more accurate because waiting for a referral is much like anticipating conception. When a couple is trying to conceive, there’s always that anxious couple days before a pregnancy test can be used to detect that coveted (+) result.

For me, the wait for a referral is like waiting to conceive – the only difference is that with adoption there is definitely a child in our future. And especially for the families who are nearing the end of their wait – every week they wonder, “is this the week?”

And then once a referral for a child is received by a family, it’s as if the pregnancy actually begins. Yes, the child is already born – but several weeks, to months, must be endured until mommy and daddy can hold their long-awaited child in their arms, and take them to their forever-home.

1 comment:

mrbjbb said...

A really nice analysis! Thanks for sharing! The day we saw Zeke's face for the first time was a day that changed our lives forever. All the tears, frustration, and angst of the previous years spent waiting for the (+) pregnancy test melted away and we knew why God set us on this journey...Can't wait for your day to come to gaze on your child's face for the first time!
Missy

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